Why I Do What I Do – My Driving Force

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I live in an RV because I don't like to be 'tied down' to one location.

I have my own business because I don't like being told what to do and when to do it.

I dislike schedules, yet I love systems which give me more time freedom.

A statement I say often is, 'don't tell me what to do!', just ask my wife.

My lifelong study has been learning about ways to make money from home, or wherever I want to be, so that I can have financial freedom.

I love living a minimalistic lifestyle so that I'm not 'tied' to many possessions.

Why do I do the things I do? For freedom.

Freedom is my driving force. Many times in my life I've felt stuck and I craved my freedom. I believe these feeling stuck times drove me to do what I do.

When I was 7, my parents separated. They were divorced when I was 8. It was not pretty. And it was a time where divorce was not so common - 1971.

I was different because I had a step dad and eventually a step mom. The other kids let me know just how different I was.

(Times have truly changed). When my kids were small, they asked why they were the only ones who DIDN'T have a step mom and dad.

For 5 years, my Mom and Dad fought over the custody of my sister and I. Every time we switched houses, we saw the pain of one parent and the glee of the other.

Since it was an emotional task for us, we often cried when we had to leave a parent. We were scolded and told not to cry because we were supposed to be happy.

I'm not a brain scientist and I don't know what this may have done to my brain, but I do know how emotionally confused I was. I do know how bad I wanted to hurry and grow up so I could get my own house and live exactly in the middle of both parents so that I didn't have to hurt one of them constantly.

When I was 12 I was forced to choose which parent I would live with. This was a decision that caused me much grief and guilt over the years.

Talking to a judge at 12 years old and having to choose a parent is not a task I wish for any kid.

Hurting a parent like that was not something I wanted to do, and yet, I had to. I was told what to do and I had to do it. I had no choice.

Years later, I would end up in an unhappy marriage that I felt I could not leave because of engrained religious beliefs. I stayed in that marriage 23 years - 13 years longer than I wanted - because I could not bring myself to do to my own kids what had been done to me.

Again, I was stuck in a position that I did not believe I could change. I did not want to go to hell. That's what I had been taught to believe would happen if I ended a marriage in divorce.

I finally realized that I was hurting my children more than helping them by staying in an unhappy situation. I believe the BEST thing we can do for our children is to be happy.

I had blamed my parents divorce for my misery and trapped feelings. What I learned was that it wasn't the divorce that caused it, but the continuous fighting and the custody battle. My perception of 'love' was certainly tainted.

I lived with a depressed Mother and an angry Father most of my young life. I wanted to escape that feeling of helplessness, never doing anything right, trying to be seen and not heard, wanting to protect my Mother and yet so scared to do so.

No wonder I crave freedom. It's what I've wanted all my life.

Many years later, my guide... my teacher, said to me, "Can I have a hug?". I suppose he saw my hesitancy and said, "I hear you saying yes, you can have a hug, but just don't love me." In my mind, love had too many strings attached.

I have to say that today I am FREE! I have the freedom that I've longed for, and wow, does it feel good!

I've worked my whole life to gain mobility, time freedom, financial freedom with no set schedules, no obligations that I don't want, too many material things to take care of and tie me down, and love... true love.

I no longer have the perception of love I used to have, which was more obligation, manipulation, rejection and abuse.

"Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free." John 8:32

I spent many years searching for truth. I found many truths which have given me much freedom.

I'm not done. I'm still searching for more truth. I consider myself to be a life-long truth seeker. I still have work to do.

But, I think I've found my driving force - Freedom. That's what drives me to do the things I do. And, I think I've also figured out why.

How about you? What's your driving force? Why do you do what you do? Is it for Freedom? Is it for Love? Is it for Peace? What lights your fire?

Leave me a message in the comments below and let me know why you do the things you do. Give me a special shout out if you are also a fellow Freedom seeker!

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