You may need to release some fear, you may need to learn something new, you may need to gain confidence, and you may need to step out of your comfort zone to get there.
The more you can visualize where you want to be and see yourself in that role, the more you will realize what you need to change about yourself to make it happen.
I am a true believer in dreaming and then visualizing that dream. If you can get it so clear in your mind as to what you want, what it looks like, and how it feels, you will be more apt to accomplish that goal. See yourself in that position. What do you smell? What do you taste? What do you feel?
Day dream about this goal; actually be there and experience this in your mind as best you can. Close your eyes and see it in your mind's eye.
I believe this accomplishes a couple of things: 1) it helps your Higher Power know exactly what you want, and 2) it helps you see what needs to be changed in yourself, your circumstances, and your surroundings.
Once you know what has to be changed, you can start working towards it.
Most of the time, I find that it is something I need to change within myself.
Many times, it's my belief system. I don't believe I deserve it or I don't believe I can have it. I may not believe I'm good enough, or I may believe that it's not my destiny.
I may have been told that I'm too young, or too old, or too poor, or not in the right location, or... the list could go on. Many of the things we have been told can be changed, and many of them are just not true.
If you can let go of any preconceived ideas or notions you may have that will keep you from your goal, then ANYTHING is possible.
Believe you can, and you will.
When you can visualize what you want in your minds eye, then you can also see the obstacles that may be in your way to getting there.
These obstacles can turn into defeats or challenges. If you choose to see them as challenges then there is always a way out.
It's funny that many times I'm able to say, "I'm just not smart enough or I don't know enough to do this correctly." But, when it comes to believing that something CAN happen, I never seem to say, "I don't know how yet, but there is something I haven't thought of or something I don't know yet."
In other words, it's often easy for us to admit we don't know something, except when we are trying to figure out how to make something happen.
We can say, "I'm not smart enough to do that", but how often do we see that as a challenge instead of a defeat? And then tell ourself, "Then get smart enough!"
I encourage you to take some time to really visualize your dreams. See yourself there and then figure out what needs to change to make it a reality.
If the person you see in that dream is someone smarter, then get smarter. If the person you see in that dream is someone healthier, then get healthier. If the person you see in that dream is more confident, then get more confidence.
Make a plan to get what you need to make that dream a reality. Make a plan to change yourself so that you can step into the role of the person you see in that dream.
Many of my interns and students want to be employees or freelancers but feel they don't know enough. They aren't good enough at php or web development. I tell them, "Then learn those things."
It's all about growth. It's all about changing ourselves to be the person who can do the things we want to do.
When I decided I wanted to be a millionaire, I knew I didn't want to be a millionaire because I necessarily wanted that much money (although, that's a nice side effect), but I mainly wanted to be a millionaire because of the person I would have to become to do that.
I wanted to grow. I wanted to grow emotionally, spiritually, and in my career. I knew it would take change.
I would love to say that I welcomed that change, but that would be a lie. I procrastinated. I avoided. I hesitated. Most of which, I did without even realizing I was doing it.
I've still not reached my goal, even though that was many years ago. Even so, I have not lost sight of the dream. I still want it more than ever because I want to be the person it takes to create that kind of income.
I now know that not reaching that goal is just an indication that I haven't served enough people yet. I am in the process of changing what I need to change about me to make that happen.
One of the things I need to change is my consistency with blogging. How can I serve people if I'm not getting the word out there? How can I serve if I keep everything to myself.
I know that millionaires must serve in one way or another.
I also know that there are people who get handed their millions. But, they don't stay millionaires. They lose it. Often, they lose it quickly.
When I become a millionaire, I don't want to lose it quickly. I don't want to get my million by winning the lottery (however, I would welcome that to get me started!)
But, if I were given the million, I wouldn't really learn how to DO it. If I lost it, I wouldn't be able to create it again. If I learn how to do it, then even if I were to lose it, I could do it again.
Why? Because I would then be the type of person it takes to be a millionaire. I don't just want to have a million dollars. I want to be a millionaire.
That means I must change myself. When I imagine myself as a millionaire, I can see what I need to change in me to help me get to that dream.
I also believe that when we visualize where we want to be and make a plan to get there, the Universe (or our Higher Power), will open up 'worm holes' in the universe to make things happen more quickly.
These 'worm holes' are usually things I hadn't thought about, or people who step up, or coincidences that aren't really coincidences.
For instance, when I decided to get debt free so that I could stay home with my kids, I started getting checks from insurance policies that I didn't even know I had. Or I was given things that allowed me to save more money on other things. It helped me reach my goal more quickly.
Later, when I decided to get debt free again so that I could move, my Grandmother decided to give me my inheritance early. It seemed like a coincidence at the time, but I don't think it would have happened had I not dreamed about what I wanted first.