I don’t talk about homeschooling much. It can be such a controversial subject. It’s a battle I just don’t want to spend my time fighting. It works for us. It may not work for you. I believe everyone should have a choice. I don’t want to beat anyone up for their choice anymore than I want to be beat up for mine.

Occasionally, however, I feel the need to talk about what’s working for us and share what we’ve learned so that it might help someone else as they search for what really works for them.

We’ve been homeschooling for almost 17 years now – we started when Matthew was born in June of 1993. He learned to crawl and walk and talk and figure out how to get what he wants even when I may not want him to have it.

When he was four, he brought me a book and told me he wanted to read it to me. I thought this was going to be great fun listening to him make up the story as he looked at the pictures because this was not one of the books that we often read. Instead, he read every single word. I had not specifically taught him how to read. He has picked it up on his own.

When he was five, I decided he needed to start ’school’. I bought all the regular kindergarten and first grade books that I thought he would be using in public or private school and started teaching him those from home. We started school when public school would start and he had his own school desk in the school room we had prepared (it also doubled as Mallory’s nursery since she was a tiny baby at the time). We had brought school home.

He did rather well, but fussed quite a bit when we got to certain subjects. He liked the idea of ’school’ though so he put up with it. Every year, I would buy all the books that I thought he should be studying for his age and understanding. I got all the regular subjects that he ’should’ be studying in public school. It was easy! he was doing great!

When Mason turned 5, I started him on the same track. Everything came to a screeching halt. He didn’t like books. He didn’t like any of the subjects I thought he should be studying. As a matter of fact, I soon found out that he didn’t want to learn ANYTHING that I wanted him to learn. But, if it was his idea, he didn’t have a problem picking it up in record time. It turned my world upside down. I felt inadequate as a teacher and as a mother. I tried bribes, punishment, rewards, everything. Nothing seemed to work.

So, I gave up. I decided to send him to public school when the next school year started. But, the strangest thing happened. A couple of days before it was time to register for school he picked up a book and started reading it word for word. It was as if he learned over night. He didn’t want to go to public school while Matthew was home.

Long story short, I finally realized that the best way to get my kids to learn is to let it be their idea. They will learn what they need when they are ready. When they have a good reason to learn it, they learn it. Not MY good reason, but theirs. Such as Mason suddenly learning to tie his shoes when Mallory announced that she could tie hers. I had been round and round with him trying to teach him how to tie his shoes and he was determined not to do it.

When Mallory turned 5, it made teaching Mason look like a piece of cake. Those of you that know Mallory know that the mold was really broken with her. She is a very determined, very stubborn, very smart little girl. And she let me know very quickly that she wasn’t going to learn anything she didn’t want to learn. If she had gone to public school, we would probably have had many, many parent/teacher conferences. I had many parent/teacher conferences with myself with this one.

Through those 17 years, I’ve learned a lot! And so have they. I’ve learned that they each their strengths. And they each have their weaknesses. So do I. I’ve learned with my own self that I have much more fun strengthening my strengths than I do my weaknesses. I would much rather do what I’m strong in and then hire someone that is good at my weakness. Not only am I happier, but so is the person that I’ve hired! When I am left alone to do what I’m passionate about, I do my very best!

Mason and Mallory made me re-think everything. It was HUGE roller coaster trying to determine what to do. One minute I would feel so inadequate and decide that I would HAVE to send them to public school so that they could learn what they needed to learn. Then I would question just WHO had the authority to decide what they needed to learn? I started to question what’s really important in life and what they really needed to be learning.

I won’t bore you with everything that went through my mind, but I will say that I finally decided that God made them the way He made them for a purpose. And I shouldn’t be trying to make them fit into a mold that someone else (me mostly) had created for them. I learned a long time ago that not every 8 year old kid can wear a size 8. And I learned that not every kid enjoys learning from books. And I learned that not every kid enjoys spelling. And the ones that enjoy spelling do not necessarily enjoy drama.

I also learned that when I made them study and learn the things *I* wanted them to study and learn, I was slowly killing their spirit. They lost that love for exploration and questioning those things that really caught their attention. They were beginning to put limits on certain things and tell themselves that they weren’t old enough to learn or understand that yet. I could see that their passions were slowly getting crushed and they were being taught to spend their time on things that really didn’t interest them.

Maybe I think too much, but when Matthew asked me why on earth he would need to write in cursive – my only answer was because he would need it for school – his teachers might require it. He quickly told me that he wasn’t going to school. I told him he needed to go to college. He told me he was going to start his own business and that if he needed to go to college to do that, then he would learn cursive before he went.

I’ve been to several colleges. I don’t want to discredit college. I learned a lot from college. Most of the things I learned there, I wouldn’t want to write about. I have to say that most every thing I’ve needed for my ‘job’, I could have, and would have, learned on my own because that’s what I’m passionate about. If it’s something I needed someone to teach me, I could have found a mentor and learned from them. There is something to say for that piece of paper and how it speaks to someone, but I would probably have done just as well without it.

Please don’t get me wrong. I am NOT against higher education. I think it has it’s place and if you want to do something that requires you to have a degree than by all means, get the degree. But, college should be more of a means to and end rather than a requirement for life. That’s just my opinion. I will not require my kids to go to college. I trust that they will go if they need it because they will want to learn whatever it is they are going there to learn. But, if they are required to go because that’s what they are supposed to do, they won’t really learn nearly as much. I know them.

I went to college the first time because that’s just when you did when you graduated high school. I had a GREAT time! But, I changed my major 5 times and quit after three years because I still didn’t know what I wanted to do. When I went back to school I had a goal and a purpose. I knew what I wanted to do and I got a 4.0 in my major. Not because I was that smart, but because I WANTED to learn it. I was passionate about it and I soaked up everything I could. I couldn’t get enough of it. It wasn’t a chore to me. It was FUN!

The most important thing I want my kids to learn is how to be happy. They are learning now that sometimes it does take money to get some of the things they want that will make them more happy. They are slowly learning that Mom won’t be around to foot the bill for their passions much longer and they will have to find a way to turn those passions into money somehow. And when they see a need to learn more about the business end of their passions, I know they’ll learn it.

What have they learned from ’school’ through the years? How to learn what they need to know. And when they ‘graduate’, I feel confident that whatever life throws at them, if they don’t know how to handle it, they’ll know how to learn how to handle it. I’m not saying they wouldn’t be able to do this if they had gone to public school. That’s irrelevant for them. It’s not a competition to see if they are smarter than other’s their age. I don’t even care if they could pass the same tests. All that really matters is their happiness.

As their teacher, I am listening constantly. When they express a desire for something they want to learn, I get them all the resources they need to learn it (within reason of course). But, since I know that when it’s their idea, they will learn it so much quicker, I try not to waste anytime getting them the resources they need.

I’ve been asked for books about writing, geometry, legos, music, arts, science, physics, advanced computer languages, comics, sports, and much, much more. I’ve been asked for software programs that do all kinds of things from making movies to making music to making fashion designs. I’m not talking just games here, I’m talking about professional software, sometimes very expensive software. I’ve been asked for tools, hardware, small appliances, science experiment kits, karate gear and now, a treadmill. I’ve provided some pretty non-traditional school resources through the years. And somehow, God has provided. I trust He will continue to do so – even when they move out.

I wrote all this to tell you how good it felt when Matthew asked me to buy him a treadmill. When I started trying to get in shape, I encouraged my kids to walk with me and exercise with me. They didn’t want to and even though at times, I made it worth their time to join me by offering them rewards, I knew that if I forced the issue it would just push them further away from joining me in the new healthy lifestyle. So, I just kept doing my own thing and didn’t push them. Last week, on the same day, both Matthew and Mallory, asked for a treadmill. Actually, Mallory said she wanted to join a gym, but when I told her Matthew wanted a treadmill, she said that was even better. Did I want to buy a treadmill? Not necessarily. There were other things I would rather spend the money on, but I’ve made a promise to myself to do everything I can to provide the resources that will get my kids closer to their goals. It’s a small price to pay for their happiness. I want them to know that it’s important to invest in our health. And some things are much more important than money.

I don’t want it to sound like I think I’ve got all this figured out. I don’t. I just know that I have to take it one step at a time. Tomorrow will bring it’s own set of challenges. What’s worked for me so far is to encourage my kids to learn whatever it is they have a desire to learn. Hopefully, I’ve taught them to never say, “I can’t” but to always look for solutions to their problems and not expect someone else to solve their problems for them. I want them to know that their happiness will never depend on another person, but will only depend on themselves and what’s inside of them.

And if they want a treadmill, we’ll get a treadmill! If I had known how hard the thing would be to put together, I would have held out a little longer Now I have no excuse not to walk. What was I thinking??

Wednesday morning, as I sat in my quiet time deciding what I needed to do for the day, I realized that my list of things to do was looking a little too familiar. I enjoy doing most everything on the list, or I did yesterday, but it’s beginning to get a little too comfortable for my tastes.

I don’t like to get comfortable. Comfortable eventually means boring too me. It can also mean stagnation. I HAVE to be learning and growing and helping people.

Of course, what I do every day helps people. There are many people who benefit greatly by the websites that I develop. I feel good contributing the skills I’ve acquired and helping people with the technical things that they don’t understand and may not ever want to understand. I even learn and grow doing what I’m doing, but I like to be on the fast track, and lately, I don’t feel like I’m learning and growing nearly as much as I could be. I’m not getting any younger and there are still a lot of things left to do on my bucket list.

So, even though what I’m doing was my passion yesterday, I have grown, therefore my passions may change or, maybe a better way to say it is that my passions intensify as I grow. As I become more capable and increase my knowledge, I feel the need to step out of my comfort zone and intensify my search for a more passionate life.

I sat thinking about my passions and asked myself the question, “If I could do ANYTHING, what would I do?” I know it has to involve computers and programming to an extent. I also know it has to be helping people. I will never be satisfied if I’m not helping someone. And it would have to involve teaching. I really have a passion for teaching, as I’ve explained before, because I feel that that’s the way I learn the most.

It hit me that I could start a community where I helped people start living their dreams. I believe that many people don’t feel that they can live their dreams because something is holding them back. Usually, that’s money. In my line of work, I’ve watched many people make LOTS of money online. I’ve even helped them do it. I KNOW it can be done. And I know HOW it’s done. I’ve been studying this stuff for a long time and I KNOW how it all works.

I truly believe that to live our dreams, we must help others live their dreams. I started thinking of ways that I could help. I could teach web building classes, which I’m already doing. That is going well and I hope to continue to do that, but the way I’m doing it now, it’s hard to tell how everyone is doing. There are so many people in the group, that if they were to all respond, it would be chaos. I have to make a better way. Right now, I can’t make that personal connection that I want to have.

Another way I could help is to educate people on internet marketing and ways to bring more traffic to their sites and convert that traffic to paying customers. I could help people find their passions and then figure out how to make a profit from that so that they could spend more time on their passions and less time worrying about money or stressing in a job that they don’t enjoy.

I truly believe that we have entered the information age and that most jobs will be online and mobile before long. Jobs are already heading in that direction. I also believe that many more of us will be working for ourselves instead of working for someone else. And I believe that’s the way it should be! We NEED to be online and the sooner we are using our passions online and converting those to money, the better off we will be.

It takes many online tools to convert those passions into dreams. I can provide those tools. I know which tools are needed and I have either built them myself, will build them or know where to find the most valuable services. I CAN help people turn their dreams into a reality. I know where to find the information, tools and services that are needed to make an online business work. I enjoy studying online marketing and cutting edge technology so that I can help others keep up with the constant changes.

So, since I KNOW all this stuff and I have a passionate desire to help others, I am going to start this community so that I can help them to live their dreams. A place where everyone helps each other too. This community will have access to me, my tools, my knowledge, my expertise, my services, etc. I want a thriving community that is on the cutting edge of technology, information, and web services. I want a community that I can help thrive online. I will be offering discounts for all my courses, services, tools, videos, etc. to the members of this community.

Those of you that want to join this community will need to make an investment. I’ve been offering a lot of things for free such as the html classes and websites for training. What I’ve found is that when people get it for free, many of them don’t value it as much. They don’t take it as seriously. Since they have little to nothing invested, they don’t push themselves to actually take advantage of the knowledge, service, or tool. Or worse yet, they feel guilty for taking my time and won’t ask the questions that they need to ask. So, you have to pay something.

Here’s the good news. I want to reward those that sign up early and help me build this community. There will be little information at first as I get this started. Eventually, there will be MUCH information and much benefit from being a part of this community, but for now, I want to work with individuals to find out what’s needed most and how I can best be of service first. So, to reward those that sign up early and help me get this going, I am only going to charge the first 10 members only $1 per month for as long as they stay active in the community. The price to join will steadily go up after that, so the sooner you join, the less you will have to pay each month, regardless of how big the community gets or how much information is included or how many tools or services become available. Your price will never change unless you cancel your membership and then rejoin.

Keep in mind that the sooner you join, the more of my attention you will get. Eventually, as the community becomes larger, I will be spread thinner and won’t be able to help each member as much. I will come up with alternative plans as the need arises, but I want you to see the opportunity in joining early. My goal is to make this THE best online community to help and support those that want to have their own online business. I want to provide the best value for tools, services, and support. I truly believe that the more people I help become abundant, then the more abundant I will become as well.

I have a couple of websites that I need to finish up so I won’t be able to get this community together for a week or so, but I wanted to get the word out there so that you can keep watching for the launch date. I hope that I have time to get it up and running in the next week or so, but my schedule at work has been pretty demanding lately. I hope it will slow down a bit, but I just never know. So, stay tuned!

In the meantime, I would love to hear your feedback!! Please leave me a comment below or send me an email and let me know what you think. I’m anxious to see if any of you think this would be a valuable service to you or not. I WANT your suggestions! I want to make this YOUR community! To do that, YOU have to be involved

I homeschool my three kids.

My oldest son, Matthew, is 16 and has started to drive. That reminds me that it won’t be long until he will be out on his own.

As they get older I wonder if I’ve taught them all they need to know to make it on their own. This, of course, is NOT the first time I’ve thought about this.

When Matthew was 5, I thought that homeschooling was just bringing school home, complete with school desk, set hours and a set curriculum.

He was a good student and loved to read – taught himself when he was 4 – loved most anything I could offer him in a book.

And then 2 years later, when it was time for Mason to start kindergarten, I realized that my whole world was about to change. He didn’t want to have anything to do with a book. We fought every day. I finally gave up and decided to send him to public school when he turned 6.

Just before he turned 6, to keep from going to public school, he seemed to learn to read overnight on his own. He still didn’t want to do anything from a book, but I was beginning to see that even though he was not totally infatuated with books (which is totally foreign to me since I am an avid book reader), he was learning everything he needed to learn in his own way and in his own time.

I relaxed my teaching methods just a bit and I found out that even with Matthew, who enjoyed the books but hated ‘homework’, they learned more when they did it their own way. They learned more when they could feel ‘in control’ of their learning. And as long as I encouraged their learning of anything they seemed interested in and bought them the necessary tools and educational materials (even though these may not be traditional educational tools and materials) they learned it much faster than they did when I was standing over them forcing them to ‘get it done’.

And then, along came Mallory. Not only did she not want anything to do with a book, she didn’t want anything to do with anything unless it was singing, dancing or bouncing around from one thing to another. I thought she would never learn to read and the more I tried to force her to, the harder it seemed to get for her.

By this time I began to realize that they learn what they need to learn when they want to learn it. The key word is WANT here. Until they see a real need for it, I can’t beat it into their heads. The more I try to force it in, the harder they resist it. So, I tried to find ways to manipulate them into wanting to learn it.

I was exhausted. And so were they. So, each year, I seemed to give up just a little bit earlier. And each year, they seemed to learn even more than they had learned the year before, WITHOUT me standing over them to beat in into their stubborn little heads.

Yes, they were spending too much time in front of the computer according to most of the world’s standards, but I really couldn’t say anything about that since I spend all my time in front of the computer too. I understand that fascination and ‘addiction’ (at least thats how much of the world explains it) to computers since I make my living in front of the computer and then continue sitting in front of my computer on into the night. But, I’m here to tell you that it’s a PASSION for me instead of an addiction! I totally LOVE my work – so much so that it’s really not work at all. It’s play. And I would do it even if I didn’t get paid to do it.

Yes, they play a lot of games, but Google is their best friend. They have the WORLD at their fingertips. And they know that when they have a question about anything, they can find the answer online. Whether it’s which tv show a tv star has been in before or how far it is to the moon, they know how to find the answer in a matter of seconds.

Computer games have helped them learn to drive, learn to cook, learn to budget their time, learn social skills, learn physics, and much, much more than I could have taught them by myself. I dare to say that each one of my kids is much smarter than I am on many, many different subjects. The only subjects where I might beat them are the subjects where my passions lie.

Why? Because when we are passionate about something, we LEARN it! It isn’t work, it’s play. It isn’t hard, it’s easy.

Do I worry about my kids not being able to ‘cut it in the real world’? THIS IS the real world!

And I know that their passions can support them and bring them financial security – now more than ever – BECAUSE of the internet.

So, instead of spending all my time trying to beat things into their head so that they could get into college which would help them get out into the ‘real world’ and get a job working for someone else that really doesn’t have their best interests at heart, I’ve been doing my own learning. While they’ve played their computer games, researched their passions online, and played their way into learning everything they’ve needed to learn, I’ve been learning how to turn those passions into a supportive way of life.

I’ve been learning as much as I possibly can about business so that I can pass that onto them when they are ready. I want them to KNOW how to get whatever they need while depending on no one but themselves and God. They must take responsibility for their own lives and make their own way.

I am a computer programmer. I’ve been doing this for over 26 years now. I’m very good at what I do. I started my own online business 5 years ago. I just knew that since I knew SO much about computers and technical stuff that I would be an overnight success. Boy, was I WRONG!

People that have NO computer skills were passing me up left and right! I realized I had a LOT to learn. And that’s ok because other than my passion for computers, I have an even greater passion for learning. I think that’s where my passion for computers comes from anyway… I know I’ll never get bored with computers because the more I learn, the more I realize I NEED to learn.

So, as I started learning more and more about how to start and run my own business, I fell in love with not only computers and programming but with marketing and sales and the challenge of entrepreneurship! I found adventure and excitement… all the things that really get my heart to pumping.

Since my biggest passion is learning, my next biggest passion is teaching. Why? Because teaching is the best way to learn. I’ve found that when I have to share what I’ve learned, I learn it better. I have to KNOW what I’m talking about and if I don’t know what I’m talking about, either my students are quick to point it out or someone that knows more than I do is kind enough to set me on the right track.

By putting my knowledge out there, those that can learn from me, benefit from my knowledge, and those that can teach me, find the holes in my knowledge and help me fill it. It’s really the best of both worlds!

When I keep that knowledge to myself, others don’t benefit from my knowledge and those that know more than I don’t realize what they know that I don’t. So, teaching and sharing ALWAYS helps me to grow and learn and get better than I was the day before.

I have a GREAT job as a web developer. I get to work from home most of the time. I make more than enough money to support us. I didn’t need to start a business. But, there are many, many reasons why I WANTED to start a business. And there are many reasons why I want to make this business grow as much as it possibly can. There are many reasons why I want to gain as much experience as I can when it comes to starting a business.

The more people I can help start a business, the more experience I get. The more experience I get, the more people I can help and the more I can help my kids when they finally realize that I’m not going to support them forever

I’m going to start sharing everything I know so that those of you that can benefit from what I know, will. Those of you that see where I’m going wrong, will hopefully help me get back on the right track! I’m putting my ego out the door! I want to LEARN!

Now with ALL that said, I am not against making money from this blog or from most anything or anywhere else! I like making money! And if you tell me you don’t, I would really have trouble believing it, but that’s a topic for another post.

It would be my dream to be able to do this all day, every day! To write about what I love to write about. Even start doing some video blogging since that’s where they say things are heading. I know that if I provide good, quality content and never give up, this could turn into a full time job. But, only when I get in the right place with my head and my heart. And only when I’m completely honest and up front with you about my intentions.

I think that by sharing as much as I can with you, it can only help my business. But, if that were my only reason for doing it, it wouldn’t be enough. As a matter of fact, one of the things I’ve learned is that my heart MUST be in the right place before any money will come – at least any money that will last.

If I do this only for my business, it will fail.

If I do this because I care about you and want to help you, it will eventually succeed – in many ways – not only monetarily.

Because I truly want to learn and because I truly enjoy my subject matter, then I can never fail and I won’t be able to keep the abundance – of everything – money, success, fulfillment – away. They will eventually come. But, it will take patience, perseverance and dedication. Things that only passion can bring over the long haul.

These are the things I’ve tried to leave out of my business before. I tried to keep my business and the rest of my life separated. But, I’m learning that they are VERY intertwined. If I don’t have my emotional life in order, then my business will never succeed – at least not for long. If I have stinking thinking, then I can never succeed. I HAVE to have my head and my heart in the right places before I can realize my abundance.

Ok, enough already. I’ll leave the rest for later posts. I’ll try to work up the nerve for a video post

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